A Note on Gifts…

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Asking for money instead of gifts can feel awkward; but if you’re like me - you need a dishwasher more than a set of china, or a vacation more than candle sticks.

Although cash isn’t traditional for a wedding gift, it is a growing trend. It is also a simple fact that more couples are paying for their own weddings and want to considerate with their funds.

When asking for cash gifts, the best way to communicate this is to add it your wedding website or include a separate note or card with your invite with the one of the wording choices below. If saving for something specific, you can also direct guests to a site like myregistry.com which allows you to specify the items you are looking to start or enjoy your life with from the money gifted.

5 wording options for asking for Cash Gifts:

  1. Because we are saving for {fill in the blank} we would appreciate cash donations in lieu of gifts. Thank you very much!

  2. We ask only of your love and presence but if a present is your desire, we would be honored with a cash gift to help us save for our (fill in the blank … example is new home)! Much love and thanks!

  3. We require only your presence but if you were thinking of giving a gift, we would greatly appreciate a gift of cash to help us save for {fill in the blank} Thank you kindly!

  4. If you were thinking of giving a gift, we would appreciate a gift of cash to help us save for (fill in the blank).

  5. In lieu of gifts, we would greatly appreciate cash donations to help us save {for our new home}.

Setting a Wedding Dress Attire

Including a dress attire on your wedding invitations or communications is encouraged.

It will make your guest feel more comfortable, help to create an expectation for the theme of your Big Day, and give you the peace of mind around the attire that will will be worn at your event. Here are some basic descriptions commonly used on invites or communications:

Casual dress means wedding guests can wear pretty much anything they want. However, I recommend to be more specific and describe something like “a summer dress for the ladies and dress pants with button-down shirt or polo shirt for the guys.”

Cocktail Attire, Semi-Formal, or Dressy Casual 
All three of these phrases are asking guests to dress somewhere between formal and casual. For example, a cocktail dress for the ladies and a suit and tie or a sport coat for the gents.

Beach Formal 
Beach inherently indicates casual, which is why formal is tacked on to the end — to indicate that it’s still a classy affair. I recommend specifics like “a formal summer sundress (tea-length or knee-length) with flats for the ladies and a summer suit with linen shirt, linen pants or khakis and sandals for the guys.”

Formal Attire or Black Tie Optional 
These two phrases are very common in today’s weddings. They indicate that the wedding party will be in formal wedding attire, and it’s optional for all guests. We recommend a dark suit or tux for the men and formal evening wear (floor length dresses or evening pant suits) for the women.

Black Tie 
Black Tie usually indicates an evening affair where the men where tuxedos and the women wear formal gowns of any length.

White Tie 
This is the most formal of all wedding dress codes. We’re talking soirees at the White House kind of evenings. The gentlemen dress in long-tail tuxedos and the women don full-length ball gowns. I hope to be so lucky as to attend one of these fabulous affairs!

Now that you know what language to use - where should the dress code go on the wedding invitation?

If your ceremony and reception are at the same location, the wedding dress code should be printed at the bottom right or bottom center of your invitation. This is known as corner copy, and is available on most wedding invitations. You will see the option to add corner copy as you personalize your wedding invitations.

If the ceremony and reception are in separate locations, your dress code should be printed on the reception card.

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